Anyone else have trouble with this?

If I share too much personal information with people, they feel uncomfortable. Perhaps they think I think we're closer then we are. Perhaps they think I try to hard, that I'm trying to force the relationship into a certain direction?

If I share too little personal information with people, they become distrustful. "Why didn't he say that, don't he like me?". When people have to question your motives, they can become usually quite paranoid.


Sometimes I feel it is harder to balance this with people I've known for a long time then with people whom I've just met.

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I have problems with this too.

I have a tendency to undershare until the person shows some interest, and then I overshare until they seem to be backing away slowly (could be in my mind though!).

I think I've probably got a tendency to slightly overshare with the people I trust the most, and completely undershare with everybody else.

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Of wet and of wildness? Let them be left,
O let them be left, wildness and wet;
Long live the weeds and the wilderness yet. - Gerard Manley Hopkins

i definately tend to undershare. the weird thing is i don't even notice when i do it.. its unconscious. but people will tell me after knowing me for awhile that they know nothing about me. and its strange, because i don't feel like i need to hide anything (other than some of the more extreme emotional bs) but i still end up not really talking about myself at all. i guess i just don't find myself that interesting

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I overshare online and undershare in real life. I can't seem to get any kind of decent balance.

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Never apologize for showing feeling. When you do so, you apologize for the truth.
~Benjamin Disraeli

Depends on who I speak to.

Any S type at work that I share information with automatically distances themselves.
You start to notice this on their faces when they look at the floor when they see you.
Oh yes, that happened to me and it's like a huge train hitting me in the head.

Therefor, I do not share any of my personal information anymore unless that person
is a specific personality type.

I seriously doubt extroverts think about this ever.

Agreed @ Karuna23. We over think situations/people at times.

Maybe INFPs have a problem with this because once we feel like we can really open up to someone it's like BLAM HERE'S EVERYTHING EVER! I usually have a problem with undersharing when it comes to anything emotional. I've had friends for years and never talked about anything I consider 'personal' because in my mind we're just not on that level.

I definitely undershare with anyone, even close friends, parents or my shrink. Even when I speak about things that bother me I leave my emotions out. And if the emotions attached to a certain subject are too strong (and negative) I tend to not talk about it or have real difficulties talking about it. I "seemingly" share when in fact I just stick to the facts of what happened and leave out the part about how (and how much) it affects me. The weird thing is I also don't share when something affects me in a good way. I don't scream in joy about a good thing, I don't dance in happiness, I don't pump my fist when I succeed. I feel the urge to do so but I don't.
When people ask me about how I feel about a certain thing, then I open up a little and describe it with words. Because then I know they're interested in me sharing.

For me it's sort of funny, I do both but in the sort of way where I'll over share parts of my personal life people don't usually talk about but I'll under share parts most people expect you to talk about.